How to hold on to the last piece of optimism when you’ve been rejected so many times from a job?

First of all, let’s start by reframing rejection. One of my favorite mantras, if you will, is REJECTION IS PROTECTION.

Now say it with me.


Got it?

We often use rejection as a way to victimize ourselves. And hunny, I know, it does NOT feel good to be rejected - be it financially, romantically, or in any shape or form. But if you’re like me and you start to develop an investigative eye, you start to look for the signs that show you it just wasn’t mean to be. The way I like to put it is that you never know what is on the other side of that rejection - maybe they wouldn’t pay you as much as you wanted, maybe the boss is a NIGHTMARE (the horror!!), maybe the commute would be terrible, maybe, maybe, maybe, maybe…

And also..maybe, just maybe, it’s not REALLY the job you actually want but the job you think you should have. So if you keep experiencing “rejection” or an obstacle in the way of getting what you want, it’s time to have a little think. Is this what I REALLY want? Am I being honest about my desires? Am I in tune with my dreams? Sometimes when we go back and look at it from that perspective, you might learn that you weren’t being honest about asking for what you really want and the Universe had it’s own funny way of making sure you got real honest with yourself.

But most importantly, we have to really learn that rejection is just part of life. Not only is it part of life but it will happen to you over and over and over again. You can’t learn to ride a bike without falling down a million times first. Imagine if you sat on that bike the fell the first time you gave it a go, sobbing and wailing hysterically, “MOOOOOMMMM, THE BIKE REJECTED ME!!!” and never got on again. You didn’t do that! You got on again, and again, and again, and maybe days, or weeks, or even MONTHS later, you were finally flying solo with the sweet, sweet breeze sweeping through your hair.

I can’t remember where I read this, I believe it was in Lewis Howes book The School of Greatness, but one guy who is now a millionaire / big business honcho, when he first had his dream and idea of what he wanted to pursue, he went to the bank to ask for a loan. The first bank rejected him. Then the second. Then the third. And the fourth, fifth, sixth.

How many of you would have given up after the 1st bank? Exactly.

He went to THIRTY BANKS. And then finally, the 31st bank said, we love your idea, you’ve got a deal. And now he’s one of the most successful people around town.

So sometimes you’ve just got to muscle out the rejection and keep going. It’s almost like the Universe is testing you to see how much you want something, how much you will fight for it, how far will you go for your dreams. Imagine the feeling of finally getting the thing after so much resistance. It’s one of the most rewarding experiences on the planet to be able to say I had an idea, and a dream, and it was hard as f*ck but I did it.