My boyfriend + I have been together for a few months. Things are great but we have at least 1 heavy convo a day. We’re great at resolving it but does this mean we’re not compatible?

Passion has two sides of the same coin - drama or pleasure. Sometimes, we subconsciously use drama to get something that we could through pleasure instead, we’re just not taught how to do this. So we create a big deal over it in order to get what we actually want, instead of just asking our partner for it... or fulfilling our desires ourselves first. Whenever I feel like I want to have a heavy talk with a partner I always ask myself, “what am I trying to get out of this? What do I want and can I give myself this first?” And then I can usually resolve the situation on my own because I can fulfill my own needs rather than relying on someone else to do it. Or sometimes you’ve just got to save the drama for your mama and insert pleasure instead. Rather than being passive aggressive because he /she didn’t do the dishes (again) and make a whole scene over this, channel your inner fiery self and look at him / her in the eye and say with a coy smile, “If you don’t do the dishes, I’ll have to punish you later...” I can guarantee you not only will you get their attention from that playful remark and the dishes get done, but you’ll have a wild night in the sheets together with sparks flying and creating deeper intimacy rather than creating more problems and tears that don’t need to be shed. More pleasure, less drama should be your new motto. Also a wild night in bed with your partner will make your skin glow and hair shine like Kira Kira so let that be your motivation to drop the drama if nothing else works...