ALMILA KAKINC | Creator + Blogger, Thirlby
RITUAL • What are your daily inner + outer rituals to cultivate beauty and radiance?
My nightly beauty ritual often becomes my meditation—multitasking at its spiritual epitome. Skincare is not merely creams, oils, pumps, + squeezes; our thoughts and energies flow through our fingers. Thoughts of any kind emulsify themselves into our skin. It becomes cyclical, from our nervous system to our skin and back to the former.
So, I take the time to be kind to my skin to recreate that gentle touch for my mind. I become hyper aware of every gesture and that means feeling the bristles of my toothbrush on my gums, the pool of water in my cupped hands, and the oil warming on my skin. It's a sensational experience. It takes me out of the automaton mode of ritual itself, which has expected connotations. Yet, aspects of my creature-of-habit regimen itself has always stayed the same: a simple rice wash and my own handcrafted oil that I've used since I was 14-years-old.
NOURISH • What are your staples for beauty + wellness + radiance?
Traditional foods I've learned to make from my grandmother and mother. My daily meals may vary, but I always include a forkful of my homemade sauerkraut + a glassful of kombucha, market greens, and high-quality salt. Everything graced with spoonfuls of coconut oil or grass-fed ghee—fat turns me on!
BODY • How do you keep your body healthy, strong, and powerful?
I see it as mine, me, and myself. I floated outside of my body since I was 10-years-old, viewing my body as some thing that was preoccupying my mind rather than my presence occupying it. My body was a cause of detachment from myself and, through comparison, from others. Shifting towards an inside view is what's allowing me to move any fixative, stagnant energy and connect to those perspectives outside of me. Only then can I see myself clearly, because only when we can be there for ourselves and our bodies can we cultivate that compassion towards every body else.
MIND • How do you stay grounded, confident, and centered in this modern day craziness we call life?
Smiling . . . this is ever since I noticed how serious most of our expressions are even amidst practices that are supposed to bring us joy, like meditation or yoga. Pay attention to the pursing or biting of your lips and furrowing of your brows. So many times I have found myself meditating and being quick or 'cute' about it, where I know I have sat down to meditate and that mere awareness fluffs up the feathers of my ego. It's hilarious and I dance with that. I find humour in this trip we're on or else I'd get all choked up with the dustballs created by wrong turns taken. It's profound how every single softening of my brows and curling of my lips leave any thought billowing on that dirt road . . .
SPIRIT • BENSHEN means 'root of the spirit' - how do you root your spirit into your life, which in turn, keeps your body beautiful, healthy, and radiant?
Extricating myself from myself, because as long as I only identify myself with my ego and I'm a somebody, I am a nobody. This is my dance: to see all in all so I can see all in myself. Your madness, your love, my madness, my love—you and I both.